We’ve all heard that you can’t pour from an empty cup.
I’m well aware how important it is to practice self care, but it’s easier said than done. Between a snowstorm and the hubs getting two different colds in the span of a week, my cup is empty. It’s hard, really hard, to find time for self care. Today that time was carved out by reading a couple of pages of my book while the baby napped and the boy watched a movie while it snowed. I am a better mom when I have time for me. My kids and husband have the ability to suck me dry and leave me feeling more than empty. Motherhood leaves me feeling like a shell of old Megan on a pretty regular basis unfortunately. Often times, I feel selfish doing things for ME. By spending time doing my hair or make-up, I'm not giving my kids my full attention. I know that I'm not being neglectful because I take time for myself to do some of the little things that make me feel like me. I know that when I'm happy, when my cup is full, I'm a better mom. When I was really struggling with this stay-at-home mom role I wished for an hour a day to myself. We planned for it, but it just never happens. In reality, I get about a an hour per week to myself. That's life, right? But I'll take it. I'll write, do my nails, listen to a podcast, watch some reality TV, or read a book. I'm doing these things for ME. As a mom, I'm needed all day. I'm responsible for two little humans all day long. I answer "Mom," "help, Mom, help," and all the snack/drink requests. I referee sibling battles. (If this stay-at-home mom gig doesn't work out, I have a bright future refereeing cage matches). I play short order cook, maid, and teacher. I can make some cool crafts and bake all the goodies. I do baths, wipe butts, and brush teeth. Kids are demanding. If I'm going to meet their needs, I need to meet mine. As a mom, that can be hard. Usually it means someone is crying or getting into something they aren't supposed to while I choke down a sandwich or a glass of water. It's not my favorite. The mom guilt can kill us if we let it. A few minutes without my full attention will not harm my children in any way. It's not being neglectful to put them somewhere safe in my house where I can keep an eye on them while I eat lunch or go to the bathroom. Now they're getting to that awesome age where the play together. I can sit at the table with a cup of coffee and make my grocery list while they giggle. Sometimes they even work out their own battles. I'm a proud mom.
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Megan is a stay-at-home mom to a stubborn and charming toddler and adorable baby girl. She is a freelance writer who hasn't slept in way too long.. She survives off of the pot of coffee her wonderful husband makes her FRESH each morning and any snack she can grab while keeping up with her little ones. Archives
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