As moms we still need something of our own. We yearn for that hour or peace and quiet. A time where nobody is calling "mom", getting peed on, and picking up a hundred cheerios off of the floor. It's essential to our sanity that we have some time to ourselves. We need to have something that is just ours. This could be a job, hobby, or even a couple of hours with our girls. But it's ours. While being a mom is seriously the most rewarding job, it is still nice to accomplish something outside of our children. I know I might get some hate for saying that, but it's really true. It can be way too easy to lose our own identities when we become parents so having something outside from our children can help us be our own person. For me, one my most important means of keeping my sanity is working out. I used to be one of those crazy people that would spend like 6 days a week at the gym. It truthfully would have been 7 if I didn't need to catch up on sleep at some point. I loved it. And I still do, but with time restraints I usually make it 3-4, sometimes if I'm lucky or having a really bad week 5, days a week. It's such a stress relief. Seriously, I come home feeling like a happier, calmer person every single time. There were six weeks after I had my C-section where I couldn't do any kind of work out. I was dying. Okay, not exactly, but it was like having an itch you can't scratch. So...I walked A LOT. My neighbors called me "the walking queen" because every day 2-3 times a day I strapped M in his stroller with his blanket and sock monkey and we walked the neighboorhood. I find it important because I also want to teach M about how necessary it is to take care of yourself both mentally and physically. Exercise does take care of both of those. Whether it be a sport, hitting the gym, or going for a run, exercise helps to clear our heads, handle stress, and stay in good shape. I want to be able to keep up with M because I know there will be a day where he can outrun me.
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Some say that moms who have husbands who work 2nd shift are "married, single moms." When J first started working a second shift job I figured it would give us MORE time together because he would start work at 3 P.M. and be home around when I go to bed. We'd have day time to spend with each other, and I'd just tackle dinner and bedtime with M by myself. Sadly, I was wrong. Working second shift greatly throws off a person's sleep schedule. Unfortunately there are days when we really only see J awake for a couple of hours due to his wacky sleep schedule.
This is difficult on our family and our marriage. I stay-at-home with M so I spend nearly my entire day with him and taking care of him. I really love it, but that doesn't mean there aren't days where I feel like I'm losing my mind. Some days I find myself speaking like the mom from Daniel Tiger and saying "aga maga." I'm so used to the lack of adult or alone time that I talk to myself in the grocery store thinking M is sitting in the cart the few times I'm alone. Anyways, due to nearly opposite schedules it can be really difficult to communicate first of all or get any quality time together. We use Facetime more than I ever imagined so that M can have some Dad time. It's been a total hit because he also likes looking at himself in the selfie camera. LOL-- Who would've thought? This is one challenge we've faced in our rather new marriage. It's difficult. We don't have family dinner obviously so we try to substitute for family lunch. I use those leftovers for J's lunch/dinner at work and usually eat some for dinner myself. It can be pretty difficult and rather lonely. In the end, we are making it work the best we can for our family. We are still learning and adjusting as we work out the kinks in our schedules. |
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Megan is a stay-at-home mom to a stubborn and charming toddler and adorable baby girl. She is a freelance writer who hasn't slept in way too long.. She survives off of the pot of coffee her wonderful husband makes her FRESH each morning and any snack she can grab while keeping up with her little ones. Archives
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